I know I’m not the only one…you suddenly hear your child say, “Come play with me.” and you roll your eyes so hard they almost roll out of your head. For most of last week, the forecast said to expect snow. My son, Ace had been anticipating a snow day and I couldn’t blame him because I wanted the same.
In case you were wondering I do not like winter at all. My motto in life is…”I’m Tropical, 80 degrees and a cool breeze and I’m good!” Remind me to get that made into a t-shirt. On the flip side of the coin, Ace enjoys winter!
While he was dreaming of 3-4 inches of snow to sled down our slanted driveway and making funny looking snowmen. I was hoping to spend the day hibernating in my Forever 21, Owl Onesie on the couch while binge-watching the first season of Insecure. I love that show! Although, there was very little snow we got our wish, The First Official Snow Day of the season!
Earlier, around 5:30 AM I took a peek on Facebook to see what status would confirm we were snowed in. In less than five minutes I had one. I stayed in bed to relish in the peace and stillness I long for most days. Within, the next hour there he was at the door asking to come in. He opened the door fully dressed to go out. I knew then…there was no way I was going to get to “Netflix and Chill-Mom Edition”.
Why was I surprised? I knew this was coming. I was the same as a child with the exception that I have siblings and well…he doesn’t. Naturally, I am perceived as his playmate whether I want to be or not. We eventually said our good mornings and he went outside solo.
I slowly eased my way into the kitchen to prepare breakfast and soon after I was on my phone networking and doing “adult stuff”. He burst through the door with, “Come Play with Me?” I replied, “It’s too cold out right now, Ace. Can you give me some time?” He then wanted to know why there wasn’t more snow and he asked me why I am always on that phone.
Honestly, I felt guilty. I am always on my phone and I was taking for granted the fact that he wanted my time and attention. I get wrapped up in the cooking and providing that I do for him, but quality play time is still so important.
Finally, after reasoning with myself, I said, “Okay, fine I will get dressed so we can go. He screeched, “Yes and leave that phone inside!” Again, I felt quilt because I wanted to capture pictures, but for who, really?! Social media? I realized that although, he may not have said outright to live in the moment that’s really what this entire day was all about.
Once we were outside we had a blast! Just before walking back in the house he said to me. “This is the best snow day ever! Thank you for making it awesome. That’s why I like it when you play in the snow with me because you always make it exciting.” My cup was full, but if I had not lived in that moment I would have missed out a wonderful opportunity to unplug and live.
You would be proud to know that I did not get one photo
no phones allowed, but here is my absolute favorite capture from one of last year’s snow days!
Let me know how you handle mom guilt and what your snow days have been like so far. I would love to hear about it.