I know I’m not the only one…the one who jumps in the car, child(ren) in tow, rushing to get them to school so you can head off to the next thing on the “to-do” list. Surely, we take for granted the thought that we would ever be in a car wreck, right? Unless, you’re a highly sensitive person such as myself and you call on the Creator most daily for traveling grace juuuusssst in case.
As I reflect on this day, May 25, 2016, exactly one year ago, I cannot help, but to be richly blessed by the fact that I spoke out loud on that slightly, rainy day asking for protection on the road. Without a doubt, I count it a miracle to be able to tell about it!
The state that I reside in is known for bad drivers especially, when we have any weather other than sunshine. On this particular day, Ace requested donuts and since we were nearing the end of a great school year I obliged. Once we left the shop I audibly prayed, “Dear God, the Universe and the angels please give us traveling grace. It is done!”
Confident yet cautious, I began heading North safely on my way to school…when within ten minutes, with two lanes of traffic and a green light a car heading South suddenly turned left in front of me. I had no time to stop (I braced myself) and BOOM! IMPACT! Donuts soared through the air, my neck whip-lashed causing my bun to come undone and my child bent forward.
Before I could utter a word, Ace started screaming! Y’all he was so caught off guard that he never saw it coming. Adrenaline began rushing through me and I jerked myself around trying to get to the back seat to check on him. It was best to place my energy there because honestly, I wanted to jump out of the car and sucker punch the person responsible.
Next thing I know the guy jumps out of his car and runs to the back door pulling on the handle to get in. Now I don’t know about you, but all I could think was WTH?!?! Instead my heart allowed me to unlock the door. So now I had this strange man in the back seat of my vehicle consoling my child! Yes, he felt terrible…
Surprisingly, at my door stood my eye witness who was kind enough to call dispatch, give me his contact information and reassure me that everything was going to be okay. Meanwhile, in the back seat our wreck-less driver was asking Ace if he would like something from the gas stop (that was kind) and he proceeded to go get him his request. Once he was back we moved our cars out of the way and I began to take photos of both cars. My faith had been tested beyond belief at this point because I had just prayed for protection and now this?! In that same instance however, my faith was being restored as well because strangers were helping me.
Shortly, afterwards the officer arrived on the scene and gave us paper work to fill out. I went back to the car filled out the paper work, called my office and the school to let them know what was going on. The officer asked if I needed an ambulance and when I didn’t respond quick enough he rudely asked again. Clearly, I was in excruciating pain and stressed out the last thing I needed was an impatient officer talking crazy so I made the executive decision to drive myself.
The front end of my car was not stable and I knew I shouldn’t have drove, but I was in survival mode. Every hospital that I arrived at had major construction and no parking so I had to make another executive decision to head to the North side where I was met with superior care, service and timeliness! While in the waiting area I was contacted by the other parities insurance to check on me and find out my status and I was given instructions on what to do with my car. The instructions did not fit the needs of a single mom so I promptly called an attorney friend of mine and they told me I could take my car to whatever shop I so choose and I did not have to go with who the other party’s insurance adjuster recommended. Ladies, we have to know these things so we do not get played! I also, spoke with my insurance so that they would have the accident on file.
Once we were released from the ER I headed over to the auto repair shop + enterprise rental shop so that I could drop my car off and leave with one at the same place! This is how the mind of a functional, single momma works…Das it! By now my entire head, neck and back were on fire and once I got cleared to take the rental I headed to Walgreens to pick up my prescription. Here is where I learned that my medical insurance would not cover my Rx since it was a vehicle accident. Literally, bills have to be paid via the auto insurance of the responsible party or out of your own pocket. Money was tight so I had to leave some of the Rx behind.
Finally, we made it home and I settled in a bit and my guy came over to check on us. I was thankful for him, but I felt so helpless not having family close enough to be with me and just help me for a few days. I called my mom to let her know, but there was not much she could do because she had her own issues to deal with.
The following day I slowly began moving around resenting the fact that I had to report to work and face what was bound to be a rough day. I had no broken bones so I pushed through because I knew that any PTO left was allotted for my family reunion at the end of Summer.
Around 7:00 a.m. I was in the kitchen getting things ready for breakfast and my doorbell rings. My son saw the rage in my eyes and begged me to be friendly upon answering the door. I looked out and there stood an “Ambulance Chaser” trying to lure me to an attorney to start a Personal Injury Claim. My head was pounding and to make matters worse he had his lady sitting out in the truck along for the ride. He said, “Oh you don’t want to be bothered today do you?” I said, “No I do not.” He quickly got out of dodge.
The rest of my day was filled with my phone buzzing with texts, voice mails and calls from attorneys warning me not to talk to anyone else, but them. My mailbox was no different. In my office, I have expert attorneys and vehicle claim adjusters so they were able to help guide me through this process without the use of an attorney seeking to get 40% or more out of any settlement I was entitled to.
Next, thing I had to do was see my Primary Care Physician (PCP) so that I could be referred to a chiropractor. I was able to see my PCP two days after the wreck, but everything else was on hold because it was Memorial Day Weekend. I laid in bed most of that weekend crying and in pain.
Tuesday, I was in full swing trying to get in to my chiropractor at Natural State Health Center. Dr. Kiernan was more than happy to take my vehicle claim and get our ex-rays and care plans started. She made sure she sent us home with bio-freeze, neck exercise equipment and a recommendation to grab some Arnicare Gel to help with swelling and pain.
What I was not prepared for was the financial strain this ordeal would have on me. The extra fuel I was now spending to go to treatment 3 times a week, the dedication to go to treatment so that my healing process would move along and the upfront medical expenses, and the severe PTSD my son had on the road had the potential to make me not want to do life. I know that there was something greater than me that got me through this difficult time.
To say that I was shook, unsettled and feeling hopeless is an understatement. My son even asked me why God let this happen when I had obviously prayed for protection. I explained to him that this test was necessary, but even in the midst of it The Creator did protect us because our lives were spared. It could have been much worse, but our purpose is much greater! This was a lesson, a message about faith uniquely designed for us and that is why we walked through it by and large privately and intimately. This way we were able to see the ways of the Creator through our own hearts and not from the opinions|ideas of others.
In closing, I want to express extreme gratitude, joy, peace and a love for life! Not that I do not feel this way every day, but especially today we are thankful for LIFE! I also, have a handle on my emergency fund so that I am better prepared for uncertainties in the future because being unprepared is for the birds.
Join the discussion: Let us know if you have been involved in a vehicle accident with or without children and how it impacted you. I hope that I wrote something in this piece that inspired you and I look forward to hearing from you! Please comment so that I can show Ace all the love around here!